what exactly is swinging?
Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting
adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting
other couples and/or bi-females for sex and/or ongoing intimate
friendships. Single gents can also become involved to a more limited
Swinging (otherwise known as "the lifestyle" or "the scene") can
take a variety of different forms. Although single women are always
welcome at swinging events, the degree to which single men are
accepted varies. Although female bisexuality is very much accepted
in the swinging community, the degree to which male bisexuality is
accepted also varies.
The Swinging Lifestyle
While the swinging lifestyle is not for everyone, many have found
swinging to be an exciting and satisfying experience. Most people
have had thoughts of sex outside their long-term relationship and
those who have pursued it usually do so by cheating on their
partners. Swinging offers people the chance to add variety and
sexual fulfilment to their sex lives and may even fulfil a fantasy
for both the man and woman. While swinging can enhance a couple's
sex life and relationship, it will by no means fix a relationship
already in trouble. Couples must have good communication and trust
and must be in control of their emotions.
What kind of People are Swingers?
Swingers come mainly from A,B,C1 social groups and occupations, and
tend to be in the 20-55 age range. While many gents are keen to try
the scene almost as soon as they're out of their adolescence, women
usually wait until their mid-twenties or later. Swingers tend to be
in a strong and trusting relationship, are outgoing, friendly and
have a huge sense of adventure. Swingers tend to see the lifestyle
as a recreational and social activity.
Do Swingers have more Sex?
While swinging does involve sex, it is also very much a social
activity, although statistics show that swingers have more sex than
the rest of the population. We believe this is due to the enhanced
sexual relationship they form with their partners due to the
exciting lifestyle they follow.
Swinging, like anything, has rules. These rules of etiquette allow
you to have a more enjoyable and safe experience while participating
in any swinger parties or events. Taking some time to learn about
swinger etiquette will ease some of the worries about what to expect
when going to a party for the first time.
Swinger Party Timekeeping
When you are attending a swinger party it is important to be on
time. At swinger parties or events, "fashionably late" is not cool.
Swinger Party Invitations
If you are invited to a party or event, it is always polite to let
the host know if your can attend or not. There is quite a bit of
preparation that goes into a swinger party and it is nice for the
host to know how many guests there will be. Check you know what is
provided and what to bring, e.g. drinks, condoms, towels for a pool
Arriving at the Swinger Party
When you attend a swinger party, arrive and leave with your partner.
It is considered bad etiquette for either partner to arrive or leave
alone thus leaving a single at the party.
Swinger Party Dress
Most swinger parties require smart casual but attractive, skimpy
clothing. Lingerie and fetish fashion is also very cool. Keep any
valuables you take with you to a minimum, as a problem will only
cause embarrassment to the host and others.
Swinger Party Cleanliness
Grooming and cleanliness are essential when attending a swinger
party. Arriving showered and shaved will make yours and other's
party experience very enjoyable. Take along any toiletries you may
need including towels. Remember to also bring any safe sex supplies
that your require for a safe and fun evening.
Decisions to Make Before Attending a Swinger Party
Before attending a swinger party or event you should decide with
your partner as to how you want to participate in the activities. Do
you want to participate together or separately. If you decide you
want to participate together it is important not to abandon each
No, this is not what you need to get in. "Tickets" are females who
attend a swinger party with a gent, just for the sake of getting
that person into the party and has no intention of swinging.
"Tickets" are frowned upon big time and will get you banned from
that party and maybe even others as the word spreads.
Swinger Party Propositions
NO means NO. The right to say "no" is a steadfast rule at any
swinger party or event. If you are not interested in swinging with
that particular person or couple, a simple "no thank you" is all
that is needed with no further explanation. Explanations can only
lead to problems and hurt feelings.
Alcohol or Drugs at a Swinger Party
While drugs are not a common problem at swinger parties, they are
prohibited as they can cause all kinds of problems, legally and
Social drinking is deemed okay, drunken behaviour is not. If you
need lots of booze to participate, these parties are not for you.
Swingers Parties and Safe Sex
While STD's have never been a big problem among swingers, safe sex
is important within the swinging community. The use of condoms is
now commonplace and anybody who is offended by this is considered
selfish and irresponsible.
Group Sex at a Swinger Party
A room is quite often set up just for group sex. If you are looking
for privacy, this is definitely not the room for you!
Use of Sex Toys at a Swinger Party
Use of sex toys are for the most part welcomed at a swinger party.
Make sure your sex toys are always clean before and after, and make
sure you use condoms on them as well.